Relationship Talk: Women playing this Blame Game.

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"Mind over matter. If you think that the men that come into your life aren't going to be shit, then guess what? They're not going to be shit.." 

This woman speaking was the music to my ears. It's about women who choose to throw the blame on a man who has done nothing but what he's been doing all the time. Ladies will lay down with this man and have his child, and have the slightest clue why she's receiving no help or respect.  It's because you sit with a man that you know isn't going to be anything and you let him come into your life. In a way you like it because you want to be disrespected, and you want to have this drama in your life. Is it fufilling? No, but oddly it helps you sleep at night. You settle for less when you know you can have more. Mediocrity should not be accepted in your happyness. It's so much potential for the average woman, yet she chooses to stay with a man that hurts her all the time. Let me share a quote with all of my women (and men)


"Love isn't supposed to hurt. If it hurts, then it isn't love"-Unknown



This is something a good friend of mines was saying the other day. It's a short quote but very very powerful. Ladies if you decide to sit with a man who hurts you time and time again, then one of you are very sickening. Because sweetie that isn't love. Love is carefree and you shouldn't worry about the next heartbreak.



I'll conclude with this final remark, Ladies find yourself within yourself and know your worth. If you feel as though you want to settle for a man who isn't as romantically involved the relationship as you, then fine. However, if you're not happy and you sit and complain about your 'man' then it's time to sit down and complain about you.